When it comes to parents raising children, there are
many ways to get it done successfullly.
However, some parents may want to do it differently
and that can lead to lots of problems.
In Parenting Today, Martha Koloski takes a look on
how to blend parenting styles to create a successful
For a lot of differerent families or different types
of parenting I should say, between mom and dad.
That can be an okay thing.
So it's one of those things, some parents are together,
some are divorced.
ANd that can lead to some different circumstances,
but there is one thing that we do know about differences
in parenting styles and what is that.
The thing we do know, is that arguing about parenting
styles is more detrimental than actually having the
Alright, so maybe celebrate some of the things you
have in common and understand the things that you
have different, but don't argue about it.
When we do that we put a big crevice in our family
and kids can take advantage of that in a hurry.
So I have a nice list here, so I want to go through
some of these tips for parents.
Let's put our marriage first.
Let's celebrate what we do agree on with our core
Once we celebrate those things and maybe we write
And then we can actually agree to parent differently
as long as they support those key core values for
We never allow our kids to manipulate you against
Agood example for that is, a lot of Love and Logic
parents here phrases like, "Hey mom, I know you are
going top have to talk to dad about this, but I was
wondering if me and Brittany could go to the pool
this afternoon.?" So they know there isn't a decision
that is going to made without that quick conference.
Love and Logic parents never take sides with your
kids to sabotage your spouses actions.And I think
the biggest one, is just like with children, role
modeling is the biggest teacher.So as an effective
parent instead of talking about what our spouse should
do, we role model what works for us.
And it's one of those things too.When you find success
in different ways your parenting, like you said, if
you continue to role model even if a different parent
is doing it differently they might see you're having
success and adopt those methods anyway.
It happens a lot.
So what about parents in different households? Mom
and dad are divorced and they might have different
ways of parenting.
What are some key things we should keep in mind? So
they're not fighting about ways parenting should be
The best thing and biggest thing to think about kids
can grow up to be successful adults living with a
We need to remember that.
A lot of times one ex spends a lot time focusing on
the other spouse and trying to change them instead
of trying to change oursleves.
The other thing is that kids are designed to test
limits, so we don;t get sucked into that phrase, "
But mom let's me or Dad let's me.
And we can use a love and logic one liner in there.
So let's say it's getting close to dinner time, "Well
mom let's me have candy as a snack before dinner.
So I can come in and say, "Hey sweetie, I noticed
you notice that mom and dad parent differently, and
I allow snakcs after dinner.So it's okay for kids
to see that mom and dad do things differently.
Just like in school there are different teaching styles,
we have different parenting styles.
and our kids are successful.
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