"Every conflict is not bullying and if we call it that, then it loses the power of the word," says Wiseman.
Not all conflict amounts to bullying and by overusing the word, we risk reducing the power of the word to describe real bullying, says Wiseman.
She believes that, to a certain extent, allowing boys and girls to work out their own problems is useful training for resolving conflicts at every stage of life. The challenge is to stay on top of what's really happening in your child's life, particularly when kids routinely answer with an "I'm fine" -- even if they're not.
"There's nothing wrong with kids trying to figure things out on their own," she says. "At the same time, there are kids who are being systemically denigrated and targeted in school and blown off by administrators and teachers."